Building a Better Bloke

Can you learn how to talk to women?

Posted in Confidence, Female friends, Gender, Life skills, Relationships, Self esteem, Women by Sam de Brito on February 23, 2010

The short answer to that question is “yes”. The long answer is “are you ready?”

That’s all it really comes down: whether you’re prepared to put aside your excuses and get down to the business of building a persona and life that is attractive to the opposite sex.

The first Building a Better Bloke seminar of the year will be held Sunday, March 7, 2010 and places are filling fast. More than 120 guys have attended the seminar now and the feedback has been incredibly positive: take a look here, if you’d like to read some recent comments about what goes down on the day … More

We can be heroes

Posted in Gender, Role models, Self esteem, Status by Sam de Brito on December 1, 2009

By Sam de Brito

Ask a young boy who his hero is and you’ll more than likely get a range of answers from sportsmen to Spiderman or whoever the American movie studios are stuffing down our kids’ throats at that moment.

Speak to teenage boys and you’ll probably get the usual suspects of rap and rock stars, maybe the odd porn actor and, of course, more leading-lights from the sporting world.

Now, speak to 20-something blokes and ask them the same question. For many young men, by this stage of life, heroes have become uncool.

A few years in the big bad world has woken them up to the fact they’ll never be Ian Thorpe or Daniel Johns, so their aspirations have been downgraded, from worldwide fame and adulation to, perhaps, a spot on the next series of MasterChefMore

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Change

Posted in Confidence, Life skills, Philosophy, Self esteem by Sam de Brito on November 9, 2009

By Rich Nicol

It occurred to me some time ago that advice is something you ask for, not some thing that you hand out freely whenever any possible opportunity arises.

I used to give out advice freely, whether requested or not. I always thought I was “helping” the other person rather than telling them what to do but this was often not how my assistance was received.

Back then I knew everything, I was always right and people would have a much easier time if they just listened to me and did what I said, when I said and how I said it … More

Tick tock

Posted in Confidence, Housekeeping, Life skills, Self esteem by Sam de Brito on October 21, 2009

A quick reminder that the next Building a Better Bloke seminar will be held Sunday, November 1, 2009 in Surry Hills, Sydney.

More than 100 guys have attended the seminar now and the feedback has been incredibly positive: take a look here, if you’d like to read some recent comments about what goes down on the day.

I spent the first thirty years of my life clueless as to what I was doing wrong (and right) with girls. About 2001, I stumbled across a couple of websites and realised there was a massive amount of literature out there that could help guys like me.

Since then, I’ve either read, listened, watched, researched, tried or written about most of the dating material out there – certainly more than any other Australian writer has in the public space … More