Building a Better Bloke

Can you learn how to talk to women?

Posted in Confidence, Female friends, Gender, Life skills, Relationships, Self esteem, Women by Sam de Brito on February 23, 2010

The short answer to that question is “yes”. The long answer is “are you ready?”

That’s all it really comes down: whether you’re prepared to put aside your excuses and get down to the business of building a persona and life that is attractive to the opposite sex.

The first Building a Better Bloke seminar of the year will be held Sunday, March 7, 2010 and places are filling fast. More than 120 guys have attended the seminar now and the feedback has been incredibly positive: take a look here, if you’d like to read some recent comments about what goes down on the day … More

The straw test: How much do you like her?

Posted in Dating, Philosophy, Relationships, Women by Sam de Brito on November 25, 2009

By Sam de Brito

I was at the pub some years ago and it was mobbed, five deep at the bar.

I bought drinks; a couple of beers for my mate Jack and me and vodkas for the women. I paid for the hooch, got the drinks in the tight-four position and burrowed into the crowd.

Half way back to our spot, I looked at the voddies and thought ‘Hmmm, forgotten the straws.’ That’s when I asked myself: ‘How much do you like this chick? Is it really worth going back for the straw?’

Now, a lot of you might say this has nothing to do with attraction, that it is gentlemanly to fetch a woman a straw. Me, I think it’s gentlemanly to buy drink after drink for a girl and, last time I checked, even toddlers could successfully sip out of just a glass … More

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What’s wrong with this picture?

Posted in Dating, Life skills, Relationships by Sam de Brito on November 7, 2009

By Sam de Brito

As a graphic visual extension of my post on All Men Are Liars on Friday, check this out.

A car crash waiting to happen.

Can I stay faithful to one woman forever?

Posted in Cheating, Philosophy, Relationships, Women by Sam de Brito on November 5, 2009

By Sam de Brito

Is it possible for the average male, short of chemical castration, to keep his spanner in his strides for the duration?

The short answer, I believe is yes. The longer answer: how?

The only blokes who really qualify to answer this question are either dead or very close to it.

All the guys I know who answer “yes” or “without a doubt” are in their 20’s, 30’s or 40’s. That’s the relationship equivalent of cocky adventure tourists doing karate kicks to warm up in Everest base camp. You just know some cabanossi-skinned Sherpa’s gonna be picking up the guy’s toes on the walk back down the mountain … More

Where do we stand with the one night stand?

Posted in Relationships, Women by Sam de Brito on November 3, 2009

By Sam de Brito

A buddy of mine I’ll call Jack, who bears an uncanny resemblance to Chesty Bond, was set up with a girl some years ago.

The night went splendidly. The girl, Penny, approved of Jack and certainly seemed up for a, ahh, deepening of intimacies back at his place.

Jack? Well, he’s an old-fashioned type when sober, and was hoping for lightening bolts. By 1am, when he’d felt no electricity, he decided to err on the side of gallantry and go home alone … More

On the slide

Posted in Relationships by Sam de Brito on November 2, 2009

Last week El Guapo gave us five signs your relationship is on the rise, this week, some indicators it could be going the other way.

ONE: When either of you express your emotions to the dog or the cat or the birds more freely and frequently than you do to each other.

There’s no more humiliating feeling than watching your partner barely acknowledge your presence when they arrive home from work, but jump on the floor and play with the pet for half an hour, telling them in a stupid voice “do you know how much your Mummy/Daddy lurvs you? What would Mummy/Daddy do if anything happened to their byootiful puppy/pussy Rover/Fido/Kitty/Fluffy”? … More

On the rise

Posted in Relationships by Sam de Brito on October 25, 2009

By El Guapo

There are obvious signs things are going well in a relationship: you get butterflies when you see each other, you can’t keep your hands to yourself, you lose track of time when you’re together, and you think every love song on the radio was written about you.

There’s equally obvious signs things are going poorly in your relationship, most notably, you argue all the bloody time. And usually over the smallest crap.

But there are also subtle signs that can be just as meaningful. After all, they say it’s the little things that count and they are right … More