Building a Better Bloke

Can you learn how to talk to women?

Posted in Confidence, Female friends, Gender, Life skills, Relationships, Self esteem, Women by Sam de Brito on February 23, 2010

The short answer to that question is “yes”. The long answer is “are you ready?”

That’s all it really comes down: whether you’re prepared to put aside your excuses and get down to the business of building a persona and life that is attractive to the opposite sex.

The first Building a Better Bloke seminar of the year will be held Sunday, March 7, 2010 and places are filling fast. More than 120 guys have attended the seminar now and the feedback has been incredibly positive: take a look here, if you’d like to read some recent comments about what goes down on the day … More

We can be heroes

Posted in Gender, Role models, Self esteem, Status by Sam de Brito on December 1, 2009

By Sam de Brito

Ask a young boy who his hero is and you’ll more than likely get a range of answers from sportsmen to Spiderman or whoever the American movie studios are stuffing down our kids’ throats at that moment.

Speak to teenage boys and you’ll probably get the usual suspects of rap and rock stars, maybe the odd porn actor and, of course, more leading-lights from the sporting world.

Now, speak to 20-something blokes and ask them the same question. For many young men, by this stage of life, heroes have become uncool.

A few years in the big bad world has woken them up to the fact they’ll never be Ian Thorpe or Daniel Johns, so their aspirations have been downgraded, from worldwide fame and adulation to, perhaps, a spot on the next series of MasterChefMore

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Boy or girl?

Posted in Gender by Sam de Brito on November 13, 2009

By David Delaney

I was talking to a girl in a shop recently, and I mentioned my brother hassling me: “You know what siblings are like” I said.

“No” she said. “I’m from China. There’s a one-child policy.”

After I finished slapping myself for not thinking of that possibility and talked my way out of it by asking about cousins (she has many) I started thinking about the fact that she was a “she” and that it was nice that at least one Chinese female baby survived into adulthood.

Like most non-Chinese all I knew about the one-child policy was that it’s supposed to have led to boys vastly outnumbering girls. I wondered if that was actually the case, since I often find that things that “everybody knows” are, in fact, wrong … More