Building a Better Bloke

BABB break time

Posted in Housekeeping by Sam de Brito on December 21, 2009

Hello all. I know we were just getting some momentum, but the Building a Better Bloke blog will be taking a break over Christmas and into January, while I recharge the batteries.

I do however, have much planned for next year and hope you can all be part of it. If you have any posts you’d like published, be sure to send them to me here.

Have a great Christmas and New Years.

Women are not puzzles

Posted in Dating, Women by Sam de Brito on December 15, 2009

By Jonathon

I’ve been noticing something a little disturbing lately and it’s not just within the seduction community.

It’s certainly exaggerated within the seduction community, but most definitely not limited to it.

What I’m referring to is the clinical nature in which men interact with the opposite sex: they see a beautiful woman and want to approach her but there’s this problem that needs to be solved before you can get what you want.

The problem of “HER” … More

The Monday bitch

Posted in The Monday bitch by Sam de Brito on December 13, 2009

By Sam de Brito

No bitching from me today.

On Saturday I watched a guy have a heart attack at my local beach, then wait what must have been 15 minutes for an ambulance as the council life guards worked to save his life.

They managed to get a weak pulse, but he died later, either in transit to the hospital or once he was admitted. I think he was late 40’s, looked pretty fit.

Pretty shitty Christmas for his family and friends. Count your blessings peeps ..

Home or Away?

Posted in Careers, Philosophy, Status, Travel by Sam de Brito on December 11, 2009

By Craig Lennox

A little while ago I saw the animated film UP.

It is a film for children, with bright, bold colours, amusing characters and a simple and entertaining story. And like many of the kids’ films being produced at the moment it has plenty for the parents, or adults who don’t mind watching kids’ movies.

To briefly summarise; a young boy with dreams of becoming an adventurer and explorer meets a young girl with the same dreams.

They grow up, get married and grow old together, all the while saving for and dreaming of the day they can travel to the South American jungle … More

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What’s for dinner?

Posted in Domestication by Sam de Brito on December 10, 2009

By Craig “Iron Chef” Heal

To my mind learning to cook is the most important life skill a “better bloke” can learn.

I’m not saying we need to develop the culinary skills of a celebrity chef but all men should attain a level of skill that means we are no longer vectors for salmonella transmission.

I’m talking about men developing the capacity to whip up cheap, quick, nutritious meals for themselves and then having a handful of special meals to knock the socks off potential girlfriends, impress the grandparents or pay back your mates after what happened at the pub during last drinks … More

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Meditations on war

Posted in Death, Morality, Philosophy, Violence by Sam de Brito on December 9, 2009

By David Delaney

When I was prime soldiering age – late teens, early 20s – I never gave a moment’s thought to being a soldier. Nothing attracted me to the idea of being at war. It never even occurred to me. I had plans, ambitions, things to do. War, to me, was an alien concept. A crime against humanity.

Both my grandfathers died before I was born. Both fought in wars.

Finding out about their lives, I became obsessed with trying to understand what made them go to war. A sense of duty, defending your country and the things you hold dear, I understand those things, but they don’t fully explain to me why my grandfathers were so keen on war. Which, according to my mother, her father most certainly was. I know less about my father’s father, but I believe he was similar … More

Fat, rich westerner

Posted in Philosophy, Travel, Wankers by Sam de Brito on December 8, 2009

By James Marshall

Ten years ago I made a resolution to go overseas every year.

It wasn’t in response to anything in particular, apart from a love of travelling, but I realised that if I didn’t prioritise the planning process, it would be easily neglected.

I didn’t want to wake up one day, realise that I was old and had not done the things I wanted to do. Since then I’ve managed to get to all sorts of out-of-the-way places, even if I cheated slightly one year by going to relatively un-exotic New Zealand for a couple of weeks. So far, so good … More

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The Monday bitch

Posted in The Monday bitch by Sam de Brito on December 6, 2009

Here’s your chance to moan to the rapidly growing audience here at Building a Better Bloke about anything and everything that pissed you off about your weekend or yet another crappy Monday at work.

To get the ball rolling, I’m gonna ask the universe to deliver me from my new neighbour – an aging northern beaches surfer with a $5 million dollar house (we live in a flat next door) and the worst taste in BBQ music I’ve yet to encounter.

Yesterday my girlfriend and I were treated to all 14 tracks of Daryl Braithwaite’s 1988 album Edge with said neighbour singin’ along “to the good bits”.

Just when we thought it was over … he stuck it on again. I’m buying some eggs for next weekend.

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Y am I here?

Posted in Careers, Philosophy by Sam de Brito on December 3, 2009

By The Ginger

I have a confession to make. I’m 21 and have been working at the same job since I left school in 2005.

Older readers might shrug at that and say “talk to me in 40 years” and some grandparent types might pat me on the back for not getting fired in that time.

Mention that fact to anybody of my generation, however, and I’ll more than likely cop a blank look, a slight slackening of the jaw and then the verbalisation of this shock: “What’s wrong with you?”

It’s been said that people my age (I loathe the term “Generation Y”) are far happier jumping from job to job, accruing life experience and sampling as much of the world as they can before their body, liver, bank account, or criminal record prevents them.

To be stuck in a single job, in a single location, for nearly four years is not the mark of success it was in my parents’ generation … More

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The left-wing moral shortfall

Posted in Uncategorized by Sam de Brito on December 1, 2009

By Thomas the Think Engine

“Imagine visiting a town,” Dr. Jonathon Haidt writes, “where people wear no clothes, never bathe, have sex in public, and eat raw meat by biting off pieces directly from the carcass.”

The author's moral fibre

Dr Haidt’s site is, where I got my fibre tested. I’m the green bars. You can see that I consider Harm and Fairness to be important moral values. I am less convinced on Loyalty, Authority, and Purity, as moral values.

The main point of the graph is not that my low scores reveal me as base, ill-bred and exquisitely suited to a career in politics.

It’s the difference between the blue lines and the red lines. Blue is the scores of people who identify as ‘liberals’ (in the American sense). I line up closer to the liberals. Red is conservatives. They consider three extra categories to be just as morally important … More

We can be heroes

Posted in Gender, Role models, Self esteem, Status by Sam de Brito on December 1, 2009

By Sam de Brito

Ask a young boy who his hero is and you’ll more than likely get a range of answers from sportsmen to Spiderman or whoever the American movie studios are stuffing down our kids’ throats at that moment.

Speak to teenage boys and you’ll probably get the usual suspects of rap and rock stars, maybe the odd porn actor and, of course, more leading-lights from the sporting world.

Now, speak to 20-something blokes and ask them the same question. For many young men, by this stage of life, heroes have become uncool.

A few years in the big bad world has woken them up to the fact they’ll never be Ian Thorpe or Daniel Johns, so their aspirations have been downgraded, from worldwide fame and adulation to, perhaps, a spot on the next series of MasterChefMore

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